At many points in this book both me and my husband can identify with the way this book describes things and helps explain what is going on with our behavior. To actually have a name for it, I never thought we were that coomon it had a name. I found this to be an encredibly helpful book and I got this book originally for my husband who was raised in a very abusive home and he did not have much emotional intelligence but have found it very helpful for both of us.
The book is extremely comprehensive and very well supported by scientific literature. The whole thing is really a large scientific literature review that is both interesting and entertaining. I feel like it helped me think about society, individuals, work, parenting, and myself in a while new way. I highly recommend it.