Codependent No More by Melody Beattie (1987)

Wonderful book~!
Very enlightening! The perfect book for my personal journey. I loved it! I felt like the author has been walking alongside myself in life.
Highly Recommended Reading!!!!

I use this book everyday in my work. I work with drug and alcohol addiction in-patients and recommend this book. I always like to keep copies on hand and eBay is a great place to acquire these.
Melody knows what she is talking about - best book around on the subject of co-dependency!!

This is a great resource to learn about yourself and learn how to take care of you and learn not to worry about everyone around you first.

This book has been recommended by 2 people in my life,my mom and my best friend so it must be good.I haven't read the read the books yet but since I'm being asked to write a review well all I can say is that two very similar and trusted people have highly recommended this book to me.

This book really helps you become a stronger person. My counselor recommended it in 1999. I got it and was engrossed. I was able to end the disasterous relationship I was in and purchased it again to help me become strong again to deal with my current relationship issues. Highly recommended!

An adult daughter of an alcoholic father, I always find myself attracted to people whom I think I can fix, and I seem to make it my purpose in life to better the unfortunate lives of others. As I was recently trying to sort things out after an extremely painful breakup, two different people recommended my reading Beattie's book Codependent No More. When I started reading the book, I was so amazed that some of the words could have been written by anyone other than myself. It was absolutely unbelievable how well I could relate to so many words and thoughts of another person. From the moment I read the first page, I could hardly put the book down. I thoroughly enjoyed the book, and I now find myself trying to practice some of Beattie's suggestions for better dealing with issues of codependency. I highly recommend this book not only to those who struggle daily with codependency, but also to the loved ones of the codependent. Even those who are not codependent could certainly benefit by better understanding their friends and family who are.

i bought the book for a class that i am taking. it was cheep and worth the price It was very useful in what i needed it for and helped alot in the information i needed to get for my class.

I am an adult child of an alcoholic/addict, have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years, who I am currently going through a divorce with, and have a 16 year old recovering addict/alcoholic. I have been a member of Al-Anon, which is a group for those affected by another's alcoholism.

I have had a copy of this book for several years and just hadn't gotten around to reading it. For some reason, on a particularly bad night, recently, I was led to pick this book up. Over the next few days I devoured the book, underlining like a madwoman. It's not that I had never heard the concepts before, but that she put them together and presented them to me in a way I finally UNDERSTOOD. She spoke my language in both this book, and the companion book, equally good, called "Beyond Codependency".

I have passed the original book along, and had to order myself another copy. It is a book I know I will read and re-read many times as I continue to recover from the effects of being codependent to alcoholics and other dysfunctional people, have had on my life. I am learning it is not helping anyone to do so much for them that it drains me to the point I am in the hospital. Codependency had its hooks into me pretty heavily, hopefully you will find this book, and follow its advice earlier than I did, and before it nearly kills you.

The author wholeheartedly supports 12-step groups, like Al-Anon, AA, Narcotics Anonymous, and they myriad of other groups that have sprung from AA. She also explains them accurately, dispelling many of he myths about them. Even if you don't think you have alcoholism or addiction in any of your family or friends, but perhaps you don't understand someone else's crazy behavior or your crazy reaction to it, read this book. I have learned there are many other disorders which create the havoc which can breed codendency in others, as we attempt to survive.

We aren't bad or weak because we are codependent. We learned certain behaviors and techniques to survive the unsurvivable, which are not good for us, or helpful to the alcoholic. We can't help it if we have never seen normal, so we don't know what it is. Read this book. You will see a light at the end of the tunnel, or may be able to recognize someone else who needs the light.

No matter how bad the situation, there is hope. I understand why I could never leave my husband, no matter how badly he treated myself or my children. I am learning to let go of the resentments and shame that froze me. I am learning to look outside myself and the sick people around me for answers so I can get well, which will help my children break the cycle of the disease.

This book was recommended to me by a psychologist after our 2nd session. I am currently devouring this book...and amazed at how she has identified so precisely the many faces of codependents. It feels like it was written with me in mind in some chapters-you will be amazed to learn that codependency is so many things. Prior to this book I had a pretty vague and doubtful opinion of codependency if there even was such a thing. This book explains, reveals, and heals.......so glad I got it and wish I'd known of it many years ago!

I think that I would have murdered my wife if I had not read this book. First thing I did when reading the book was to say "see all her problems?". But paying attention to the things the book was telling me helped me to deal with my own issues so I didn't have to worry about any one elses. This book was the most life altering book I ever read.

I purchased the book to protect myself from codependency behavior from family members. Very beneficial for individuals in abusive relationships when to say "No", protect yourself from continuous abuse, learn how to love yourself again and move on in life. Overall, I would highly recommend the book.

I ordered a copy of the book after borrowing it from a friend at work. I can't say enough about it. It dealt with a lot of things that I was going through with problems I was having in my life because of the way I was dealing with others chemical dependency. The book stresses ways to help yourself and lets you know that your feelings are your own and you can live a healthly life even in a not so healthy situation. I can honestly say for me it was a life changing book.

very informative. me and my husband separated in december and i felt he had too much control over me mentally. i am reading this to help me get thru this trial. thanks